In this episode of the Ordinary Radicals podcast, Jonathan Hayashi, and Brandon Boatner about church hurt.
It’s a serious, isn’t it? There’s church hurt in people in general, but how does that all lay out? Why does this “hurt” seems unique? How does it manifest itself?
Some highlights from today’s episode.
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Hurt is something we all go through because of sin.
- Preach the word in and out of seasons.
- Don’t want to be stuck in past circumstances, that influences the present moments, which unbales you to move towards the future opportunities.
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Dealing with maturity can help move beyond church hurt.
- Churches can be like counselor. It may take time for you to find a healthy church.
- Criticism with concern is constructive. Criticism without concern is combative.
- Casting stones, that hurts. That is the reason we can sympathize with those who hurt.
- Church is not like family. Church IS FAMILY. That is why it hurt.
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When we choose to forgive and move on, we are emulating Jesus to people.
Here’s the breakdown outline from today’s conversation.
1. What Does Church Hurt Look Like?
– Hurt Process: (1) Hurt (2) Anger (3) Bitter (4) Revenge.
– “See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled” (Heb 12:15).
– Fruit of flesh vs. fruit of the spirit (Gal 5).
2. How Do We Best Minister to Those who Experience Church Hurt?
– Grace-filled moments? Preach the gospel to ourselves.
– Put on Christ vs. Put Off Self.
– Revitalization with those who experienced church hurt.
– Sit and talk about past issues may help at times to navigate difficult pain.
– Hurt people hurt people.
– “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort,” (2 Cor 1:3).
3. What Might We Tell People Stop Going to Church?
– I cannot be Jesus to everyone. I cannot be Messiah for people.
– Church is not museum of saints but hospital for sinners.
– “Do not neglect the assembly of believers” (Heb 10:24).
– There’s no perfect church. No judgement-free church.
4. Every Pastor Learned to Live with Church Hurt
– Everyone lives in a glasshouse. For a pastor? It’s up on top of a hill.
– “It is doubtful whether God can bless a man greatly until he has hurt him deeply” – A.W. Tozer
– Forgiveness is hurtful when we don’t want to forgive.
– “Forgive them for they know not what they do” (Luke 23:34).
Resources mentioned in today’s podcast
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Goodafternoon,
I bought your book a few years ago (maybe 4 or almost 5), ashamedly I have not read it. I read probably a page or two. My children and I have experienced church hurt, deeply.
Adele, sorry to hear about your hurt you felt from the church. There’s nothing as beautiful as the church, but at the same time, not as hurtful as a church. I pray Jesus restore and brings you and your family by his grace to His own glory.